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How To Cure Lupus Report (At no time do I claim to have a cure!)

Okay if you ever read the above headline on a title of an article or someone says this to you, then run away

(Except on this occasion!)

I will share why that is in this report, however the main reason for this report is that through my work as a speaker, coach, writer, etc I don’t hide my Lupus, other auto immune diseases and Fibromyalgia and I aim to be a voice of “You can get through this” however a positive mindset is just not enough when it comes to these long term health issues,.

I know how truly tough they can be and I want to share what I’ve learnt. Originally this was going to be a blog article however I decided to create a downloadable PDF so you could keep it and read the report whenever you need it.

I’ve put this together in a way that it could be useful to;

  • Anyone suffering from a long-term health issue.
  • Anyone that cares for and loves someone with a long term condition.
  • (And to be honest anyone that is struggling with work life balance and want to take control again).

Disclaimer; The first thing I want to say is I’m not an expert, I’m not medical qualified, and I’ve no affiliation to anything I recommend or share that has helped me (except coaching.)

In this report we will look at;

  • Why no one should ever tell you they can cure you.
  • Why you must fight and how to never give up fighting.
  • Gaining the right team.
  • How to deal with people that don't get it.
  • How to deal with people who hurt you.
  • The things medical, alternative and diverse that I've tried.
  • The things that I feel help me.
  • How to pace (but not like the NHS teaches!)
  • How to change your attitude and why you need to.
  • When to ditch the pacing and why.
  • The placebo effect and it's power.
  • Fixating on a cure
  • How to keep the faith and why.
  • Learn to say No and why you need to.
  • The practice of gratitude and it's benefits.
  • How to reframe the sh*tist of things.
  • A lesson from Michael J Fox.
  • How to protect your mindset and why you need to.
  • How to listen to your body.
  • Medication is not a crime, how to ditch the guilt.
  • How to deal with losing your looks, figure, hair, etc, etc.
  • Why you need to set boundaries and how to do it.
  • The importance of time management.
  • October 13, 2018

How to build a mental health tool kit.

A mental health tool kit is essential and not just for those that suffer from mental health illnesses or repeated low moods. Everyone on the planet should have one!

For myself because I have Lupus I experienced a bout of depression in 2018 that caused anxiety too (not as bad as I experienced 17 years ago, however I feared what could happen.) Therefore I created a list of the things that I know make me feel good.

Remember when you start doing the things you usually love but don’t seem to enjoy now, it won’t feel good, but keep going anyway. It will work!

Monitor how you feel. Give it a score out of 10. ie 1 means “I’m feeling very low and my depression feels really bad” and 10 means “I feel really happy and like life’s great!” which helps you to appreciate and understand what works and what’s not and what impacts on you too.

I’m currently mentally healthy, resilient and have strong emotional intelligence and it is in part down to this process and monitoring my mood, emotions and feelings to ensure I’m doing what I need to stay that way. Looking after everyone else and not you is not going to work.

Building your tool kit today ensures when life feels tough you can look at your own version of this infographic and think “Right, what am I going to do?”

  1. “What do I need to think?”
  2. “What would usually make me smile?”
  3. “How would I like to feel?”

Please note I’m not a qualified counsellor and do not directly deal with depression or other mental health illnesses, although I can support you along side working with a therapist. This works very well for some of my clients who need to keep a check on their mental health and emotional intelligence because they appreciate how it can impact on their personal and professional success too.

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I’m so honoured to learn that my books are not only helping people achieve more and overcome lifelong fears , it’s helped people overcome anxiety, go back to work, overcome depression and negativity and genuinely make a difference. I get stories about the power of my books for mental health all the time, yet these beautiful messages remain confidential to respect my readers, I will just share one (that I’ve permission to share)

“Thanks to you and this book, I’m flying high like I never have before.

(Yes that quote did make me cry!)

taking control of your mind

  • October 13, 2018