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How saying ‘no’ can positively impact your business success

Recently I spoke for WEConnect International. Here you can access the full webinar: ‘How saying ‘no’ can positively impact your business success’ I hope you enjoy the session and learn a lot about how saying no can make you more focused, less stressed and more productive!

And below are additional links to further learning and support. Let me know how you get on and if you aren’t signed up to WeConnect you – please do!

Webinar Recording
If you’d like to listen back or if you weren’t able to join us on the day, the recording of the webinar can be found here: https://youtu.be/mAHT7Zrfq5E

Accompanying slides can be found here.

If you have any issues with any of these links, you can also access them online here.

You can find details about my best-selling book Fight the Fear (now in 5 languages) that looks at the 12 biggest fears that impact on success including our fear of saying no and our fear of what people think of us here: https://www.mandieholgate.co.uk/books/

And here are the additional articles as mentioned:



Courses on powerful communication anywhere, building confidence and other business related subjects – https://www.mandieholgate.co.uk/shop/

And the confidential mastermind group that is a very powerful group for female business owners https://www.thebusinesswomansnetwork.co.uk/bwn-insider-benefits/  – a great way to access a coach 24/7!

If you found the webinar useful and are able to leave a review on Linkedin or Google that would be greatly appreciated.

Mandie offers team coaching, 1 to 1 coaching and mentoring to help women and their teams achieve more and is very happy to offer a discount for all our WEConnect International webinar attendees (not reviews). Please contact her to avail of this!

Please Register!
Finally, if you have not yet registered your business with WEConnect International, you can register with us for free online here: https://weconnectinternational.org/en/womens-business-enterprises/self-registration.

Jay McLeod

eNetwork and Operations Manager for Europe

WEConnect International

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  • June 26, 2019

How To Power Up Your Conversations

Conversation this morning with my son, highlights the power of our conversations And most important bit….the stuff that isn’t said, that you need to listen to, so that you get the results in relationships that you want.

Me “Have you tidied your bedroom, my version of tidy, not yours.

Son “Yes”

Me No you havn’t that gap in your Yes means that you haven’t done that and in actual fact you are highly likely playing on your phone instead, and you have just looked up to check the state of your room.”

Son “Yes, I have tidied my room.”

Me “No you still haven’t, but you are now looking around the room deciding that you really need to tidy this mess before your mum walks in the room. And so said yes in a long drawn out fashion because you were actually considering how you will need to take action to get me off your back.”

Son stomps into bathroom and says “How were you watching me from in the bath?”

My reply “I’m a coach, its my job to listen to the important stuff, and that’s the stuff you don’t say!”

The point here is yes it took me a long time to train and then hone my skills. However we all have the ability to listen between peoples words. To listen to where the other party takes a breath, to note the gaps in the sentence and many other things to ensure the power of our relationships improve.

Because let’s be honest when we have good relationships with all those around us we then feel better, we feel happier and when we are at our happiest we are at our most productive and creative and thus we are more successful in what we do.

So how can you power up your skills in relationships?

You don’t need to not see the person. Just looking at someone’s body language can give you clues. If you have asked a person a question and their body language changes from open to closed, ask yourself why?

Use words that allow a person to expand on what they are saying rather than give you a short answer. Instead of saying things like “This is what you should do.” Say things like “Could this be more interesting for you to do taking into account what we are discussing?” This is powerful because the minute you TELL someone what to do, you are likely to get their hackles up and they will fight you. Letting people feel like it was their idea creates responsibility and ownership and a desire to get a result.

Give people the space to think for longer. If you find your a person who struggles with a gap in a conversation, in your mind say what they are saying, so that you are really hearing them. You may not feel any different. But the other party will definitely feel it. They will feel listened to and that is very powerful in good relationships.

The length of a word. A Breath at the start or midway through are all indicators. What could they be indicating to you without saying?

Picking up on the subtleties of what people are not saying and the way that they are conversing with you will power up your relationships. People will feel more respected. More listened to and more valued. You will have a greater understanding of their viewpoint and that in turns gives you more information to work with.

And it freaks 12 year old know-it-alls!

  • September 25, 2013