Lesson 2 – Building communication confidence
I wish there was a magic bucket I could fill up for you when it comes to communication confidence, however alas there is not. Although, I’ve coached enough people to know that this course CAN WORK POWERFULLY (I know capitals is rude and a lot like shouting, however I feel so passionate about what this course could do for you that, I really want to bring that message home.) Ultimately building confidence is about the content of this course and these 5 things;
- Take the time to learn the lessons in this course. (There is no slick, clever clogs short cut to this, if you want to build your confidence as a speaker you have got to deal with the mind set and the skill set, this course does both, if you take the time to do the actions and homework you will build a toolkit that will enable you to be a great speaker.
- Trust that you can do it. Often once I’ve worked 1 on 1 with a client ultimately, they want someone to metaphorically hold their hand and say “You can do this”. They want that internal cheer leader that says you can do this. When this happens to you there are 2 things you can do 1. Get in touch with me for a quick text chat as many clients have done just before they’ve gone on stage and 2. Look for the occasions where you’ve stepped up and done things you didn’t think were possible. It creates the belief in yourself which is so important as a speaker.
- The greatest of speakers do not get on stage without knowing their facts. And personally even if I know my facts I still check them because science and research moves on. You want to feel confident and ready for anything. And from experience I can tell you that doing your research is not just for your speaking career it is good for your brand, personal reputation and even your sales. You know saying that you only have to know more than your audience? Sometimes it is about that 1 person that knows the same random fact as you and is hooked by your in-depth knowledge. Never miss out on the research stage. It will build confidence.
- I rehearse a 60 seconds even for my own events. They focus my mind on what I’m doing there that day and ensure I don’t get rusty. You can’t practice enough. And don’t just practice from the start to the end. We will look in detail at the structure of your speaking engagement, however when it comes to practice, ensure you practice the end, the middle, that bit with the statistics, that bit that you stumble over that word. I would add that this is not about knowing your content word for word. It is about knowing the flow of what you wish to say. The reasons why. The results you want you and your audience to get (as we will look at in a later lesson) and the feeling’s and homework you want your audience to leave with.
- Only you know what you were going to say. If you forget a part, or add something else in instead. As long as you remember the mindset and skillset lessons in this course you can’t go far wrong. We lose our confidence when we think about what people think of us and assume they are thinking something negative or unfavourable. Don’t let your mind run away with itself creating nonsense that doesn’t exist.
So it’s important to;
- Learn these lessons.
- Trust you can raise your game and perform well.
- Research your ideas and speech.
- Practice, practice, practice
- And only you know what you were going to say.
- Audiences want you to do well.
It is important to remember that in your life to date, not everything you are good at could you do from the womb, you’ve had to learn and you did successfully. We struggle to appreciate how far we’ve come and what we are capable of when we let the negative voice take over and that is why the ideas in this lesson are very practical. When you are starting out as a speaker, you need things that will enable your brain to take over and give you the facts and not let your mind try and damage your results. Therefore the only way you can fail as a speaker is if you stop working on the lessons in this course and saying yes to every speaking engagement. I know this to be true, because it is a fact for myself and many clients.
What does my negative voice try and tell me?
How will I override that voice?
On what occasions in my past have I learnt new things? (Evidence to rely on.)
WORTH NOTING; Lastly remember that by nature humans like to be with other humans and that is because biologically we are made to be together. As such when someone stands up and starts speaking we usually want to hear what they’ve got to say. In facts studies have shown that when you do the things in this course you find that people also want you to do well. We like things that work well together and as such when you stand up you already have a room of fans, it’s your job to keep them that way!
What do you feel are the biggest impactors to your success as a public speaker?