On the school run today, my daughter and I got chatting about the work she has to complete.
She does tutoring and has school homework, as well as other things to prepare for different clubs she likes to do. I know that naturally (looking at this mornings progress!) that she will gravitate to doing the prep for her clubs rather than her tutoring, and lets be honest us busy business women can slip into the same kind of patterns can’t we?
Its all too easy to do the things that are easy. To do the things we enjoy doing, but how do you take action (that gets results) on things you know are going to be tough, challenging or require more effort than normal?
Here’s the top tip’s I shared with my daughter to take action (even when you don’t want to);
(And for the record she is sat next to me taking targeted action – so I know these work!)
Firstly power up your reason why – It’s not good enough to know it needs to happen, and you are the one that needs to do it. Find your gut instinct, your deep to the core of your being reason why its got to happen and you’re the one that’s go to do it. And when you know that….
Visualise the targeted action working – Even if you don’t know how you are going to get the job done, visualise, see, hear, feel that it has worked. See yourself sat there at the end of the completed task, thinking “Yes, I did it!”
My daughter struggles to not get distracted (and I’m not saying us business women ever suffer from that right?) If you find that’s you too, then once you have your clear end result visualised, ask yourself what needs to happen for me to get that result? Write a list. Talk it through out loud to another person or even to yourself to really get the answers you need.
Reward yourself – If my daughter gets her work done tonight, I’ve promised I will take her to see her Grandparents tomorrow for a play date. Dad is an even bigger kid than me so it will be a great time for us all. (Wow, I think that’s making me work harder too. What an added bonus!) How will you reward yourself for your success?
The right environment for the right action – I can work anywhere. But my daughter is not like that. So she has kept her school uniform on. As she pointed out “Mummy these are my work clothes and if I stay in these clothes I will work as hard as I do at school.” She has also chose to sit in the office with me, so that she is in my work environment and rely on me to spur her on. Which leads me on to my last top tip….
Who will motivate you into action? I know that posting it on Twitter or Facebook will make me take action. Because as far as I’m concerned my word is my honour. Credibility is critically important to business women and so if I tell you I’m going to do something on social media and I don’t I’ve undermined me. Now I could never let THAT happen! Thus action happens. What and / or whom would motivate you?
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This is an example of one of the many unique tools I use in coaching. This is also featured in Taking Control Of Your Mind and Fight the fear.
Take a look at the negative spiral below. This is an example from working with a business woman recently who was really struggling with the outcome of public speaking.
As we worked together it become very apparent that presentation opportunities could destroy the impact of her whole day and really rock her motivation and the results she got that day and of course her long term professional opportunities too.
We looked at what was currently happening then I planted the seed of an idea about what could happen if she reacted in the opposite way.
If you are looking to make change you need a powerful reason to do it. This woman realised that her believes and reactions were heavily impacting on her success and it was a real Eureka moment!
In most coaching sessions I will help clients appreciate what is currently happening. If you can really feel the pain of this then you can decide you want to work to get away from this.
Write something that impacts on you at the top of the page – in the example we have “When I stand up to speak….”
Now for each bubble (and this negative spiral can have a lot more bubbles dragging you down further and further) you will have Feeling, Emotion, Action or Result.
You may have a mixture of both tangible and nontangible or you will have predominantly emotional and feeling or action and result. This gives you a clue to your natural style; to the science of being you. And by utilising this instead of fighting it you can achieve more. Really feel the pain!
No amount of learning new skills in public speaking would change this clients results until she was able to take control of her mind.
We all get those negative voices in our head that tell us we can’t do it, and we will fail. The negative to positive spiral is a great way to get over it. You can learn more in my confidence course and by reading my books here These have both been proven to help people get over that voice in their head that tells them they can’t and that they are an impostor.
Start simply by being aware of what’s happening, then work out what could be the opposite.
Let your subconscious get working, and you will be surprised at how quick you can get that negative into a positive!
There is a lot more to it to ensure that voice never impacts on you again and I take my clients through very personalised solutions to ensure they get rid of theirs.
I’m happy to have a chat anytime, so feel free to get in touch. firstname.lastname@example.org and I like the phone ringing – +44 (0) 1206 381 482